Monday, November 24, 2008

Fullfilled


by Masque


Night spills its ink across

Your body and beckons me

Carve my identity into yours.

Black fingers shadow their paths

On pale skin, seducing

Me; pleading with me to follow.

In this dark space, beyond all thought

Of right or wrong, there is a still

Lake —pain and indulgence— its glossy surface

Undisturbed; unrelenting.

I’ll meet you there.

I will lead you under, to drown

In the beauty of this iniquity

Until all light and dark disperse

Into this simple elixir of desire.

Saturday, November 22, 2008

Toys- the Physics of Fun

Applied Science to Use of BDSM Toys

By Ben, NC Master


Over the years I have seen demonstrations and presentations regarding the use of various BDSM toys as well as read many essays or articles on the proper use and safety in the use of these toys. However, I don’t remember any one talking about the science behind the use of the toys. One can become proficient at the use of these toys without understanding the science, but to gain true Mastery of using the toys it is important to fully understand the science behind the sensations caused.

Let Me begin with a few basics of physics: (Just so we understand the vocabulary)

Mass is the amount of matter in a substance
Weight is the force of gravity on mass
Velocity is a measure of speed and direction
Acceleration is the change in velocity
Force is a push or pull upon an object resulting from the object's interaction with another object
Force is calculated by multiplying Mass times Acceleration
Pressure is force per unit of area

When we use BDSM toys we are creating sensations. These sensations can be gentle, soft, harsh, intense, erotic, painful, thuddy or stingy, just to use a few of the terms usually applied. In order to have true mastery of a toy, one must be able to control and precisely deliver the sensation desired. One must also understand the characteristics of the toy and what creates a given sensation.

I will use a flogger as an example. Floggers come in different weights, different number of falls, different materials, different lengths and width of the falls. Each of these factors influences the sensations. If we change the Mass of the flogger, we also change the Weight of the flogger. When the Mass is changed the Force the flogger delivers is also changed.

Velocity is a measure of speed and direction. When you use a flogger, you can vary both the speed the flogger is thrown and the direction at which it is thrown. Since Force is the result of Mass times Acceleration any change in Speed or Direction will change the sensation. True control of these factors can create many different sensations by the same toy.

Pressure can be understood as the totality of the sensation. Pressure is defined as Force per unit of area. If we apply a Force with a flogger that has wide falls or a large number of falls, the Force is spread over a larger surface area and therefore the Pressure is spread over a wider area and we get a “thuddy” sensation. If that same Force is applied to a flogger with narrow falls, the Force is limited to a smaller surface area and we get more Pressure and that creates a “stingy” sensation..

These same principles can be applied to every toy we use. Understanding the design and characteristics of each toy and how the science influences the sensations will allow you to become truly skilled and not just whacking away. Who said science isn’t fun?

Our Absolute Lifestyle



Article 2 of 12

Author: Master Eso © 2004


When I came out in the BDSM scene some 6 years ago, after practicing my lifestyle in the privacy of my own home for some 23 years, I did so under the naïve assumption that the BDSM scene was ruled by honor, integrity and respect in a hierarchy like anciently setting, just as or similar to the way I rule my household. Slaves humbly serving their Masters in deference, devotion and with pleasure. Masters ruling over their subjects with grace and honor. Masters like brothers. Slaves like sisters. Ritual and protocol. A Man a word. Bonding I guess they call it now. I think you get the picture…

That’s right. And I never even read the Story Of O or any of the Gor Books.

Why else I thought, would we come out and gather. Surely not to practice our vanilla society skills. Certainly not to do now, what we would never do at home. Absolutely not to have our slaves behave all out of “role”, contrary to what we expect them to in the privacy of our own homes.

The reality however, dear Masters and slaves, is far from anything I would have ever imagined. The reality indeed, is a disgrace.

Go to the chat rooms and take a look, especially the ones on AOL. Visit a Munch or join a group, go to a party, and see for yourself. There is little honor, no ritual, no protocol. A Man a word… give me a break. No deference and no respect, it’s almost like the lifestyle is a fake.

Pseudo submissives running amok. Doms or swingers or players, or just out to get laid, one just doesn’t know. Egos and cliques. Bullies and fakes. Instigators, antagonizers and anarchists. Dishonesty running rampant. Sportsters, role players, and jokers. Protectors and preachers, and yes then there is us, in midst of the mess.

Structure and protocol is amiss, ritual, honor and pride and respect most of all. The hierarchy must be upheld.

It must not be that our slaves and those aspiring to be, are instigated against their Masters, looked down upon and belittled, if they wont comply. It must not happen that us Masters are portrayed to be abusers, control freaks, tyrants and worse. It must not be tolerated that Masters are scolded and lectured by submissives or even slaves, belittled or ridiculed, it is a shame. It must not be accepted that our collared slaves are proposed to by others behind our back. It simply must not be allowed that our lifestyle is ruled by backstabbing, slander and lies, by power struggles and those who simply don’t care. It must not continue that our lifestyle so dear to many of us, becomes watered down more and more by those new age online philosophies by the political correct, who brought us this mess.

Maybe some may say I am a dreamer, unrealistic, a fool and out of touch, an odd-ball, a fantasist, and if I would not live this, my lifestyle for so many years, I might even agree.

Absolute BDSM, Old Guard, Old Ways, Absolute Slavery, APE and TPE, it does not matter, but it all starts in our minds, our lifestyle is mental. Pride and honor, integrity and respect, our perceptions, it’s all in the mind. Expressed with behavior, through rituals, protocols and rules, it comes alive thru speech. We create our lifestyle, all by ourselves.

If we don’t carefully select who we surround us with, if we don’t take action when things go array, if we don’t correct the path when the lifestyle goes the wrong path, if we don’t choose honor, integrity and respect, and if we don’t uphold our lifestyle, nobody else will !

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Mentoring- The Rules

Mentoring Rules
By Evil_Geoff

Rule #1 - If they want to have sex with you, THEY ARE NOT A MENTOR.
Rule #1a - If you want to have sex with them, YOU AREN'T LOOKING FOR A MENTOR.

Rule #2 - If they want to play with you, THEY ARE NOT A MENTOR.
Rule #2a - If you want them to play with you, YOU ARE NOT LOOKING FOR A MENTOR.


Rule #3 - If they try to run your life or deny you access to other people or sources of information for your BDSM education, THEY ARE NOT A MENTOR.
Rule #3a - If you are looking for them to run your life, make decisions for you, tell you who you can see, or what you can read, or who you can talk to to learn about this lifestyle, YOU ARE NOT LOOKING FOR A MENTOR.


Rule #4 - YOU, and only YOU, are responsible for wisely choosing a mentor. DO YOUR EFFING HOMEWORK before asking someone to be a mentor for you.


A mentor is a teacher, a guide, a sounding board, a friend. According to Webster's - a mentor is "a trusted counselor or guide." A mentor is there to answer your questions, offer advice, point you in the direction to find the answers you need. They are there to warn you when you are about to screw up... but they are not there to save you from your own hormones or stupidity. A mentor needs the ethics of a saint, and the patience of Job, the flexibility of a snake and a spine of steel sometimes.

A mentor isn't a fuck-buddy, a friend with benefits, a play partner, or control freak for your life. Do not let a predator in mentor's clothing attempt to use you.

Nuff said.

YIK,
- Geoff